Pedophile vs Homosexuality – What are the Differences?

4186-3819There are many, folks, and it’s time this issue came out of the closet (pun) and into the light of day. I’m posting this blog under Killers Without Conscience since some of my readers have written comments that reflect confusion between pedophilia and homosexuality, and the murderous, vile thoughts they have mistakenly associated between the two. People have written to me and spoken to me about how pedophiles are also homosexuals (they use nastier words, of course), if they molest little boys. Wrongo. That I even have to distinguish the two is mind-boggling, especially for the 21st century, yet it’s true.  Pedophiles are usually men, and occasionally women, who are sexually attracted to children who do not have secondary sexual characteristics. This means a pedophile maintains interest in a child who hasn’t yet reached puberty. The age of the child doesn’t matter.

According to the DSM-IV-TR  pedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in persons 16 years of age or older, is typically characterized by a primary or exclusive sexual interest toward prepubescent children (generally age 11 years or younger, though specific diagnosis criteria for the disorder extends the cut-off point for pre-pubescence to age 13). This cut-off point begins at the onset of puberty and the child’s development of secondary sexual characteristics. This also extends to the sexual interest in and sexual contact with pubescent or post-pubescent minors. Secondary sexual traits include:

  1. menstruation (menses)
  2. breast development
  3. facial hair
  4. public and (sometimes) armpit hair
  5. deepening voice
  6. height

These are generally a turn-off for the pedophile, unless s/he began a relationship with a young child and continues it through the teen years, a rare occurrence. Non-exclusive pedophiles are attracted to both children and adults, and can be sexually aroused by both. Michael Danton and his hockey coach David Frost, are an example of this odd phenomenon. Mike, a Cmdanadian ice hockey player is currently playing for the Kramfors-Alliansen in the Swedish Division 1 league. He played for the New Jersey Devils and St. Louis Blues of the National Hockey League between 2000 and 2004.

Frost met Mike when he was an adolescent, playing Metro Junior A hockey. Frost began coaching Mike when he was playing in the Toronto Young Nationals, an PeeWee club. It would hardly be a surprise if this was the age when Frost began molesting Mike. Frost worked hard with Michael to get him onto a farm team and eventually helped him to get drafted into the NHL. Mike paid a price for his success: Frost coerced him into a sexual relationship from a pre-pubescent age. Mike’s parents seem to have ignored or were unaware of the many signs of sex abuse in their son.

These signs are usually quite easy to detect when a concerned parent is closely involved with her or his child. Some of these may include:

  1. bed-wetting
  2. mood swings
  3. temper tantrums
  4. nightmares
  5. concerns that genitalia are abnormal
  6. repulsed by suggestions of sexual attraction
  7. too sexually precocious at a young age

In addition, parents didn’t appearable  to recognize, or perhaps to acknowledge, signs of pedophilia in Frost:

  1. Frost spent a lot of time alone with Mike behind closed doors at the home of the family he was staying with during his stint in the Ontario Hockey League.
  2. He was unusually possessive of Mike.
  3. He demonstrated jealousy towards Mike’s father.
  4. He discouraged Mike from developing friends outside of hockey.
  5. He encouraged Mike to distance himself from his parents.

Mike himself suggested that his father sexually abused him. Stephen Jeffrey denied this allegation although if true, young Mike was first a victim of incestuous pedophilia, then Frost’s victim. In fact, I would argue that the relationship between Frost and Danton was incestuous throughout their relationship: Frost was a (creepy) father figure to Mike Danton and spent more time with him than Mike’s own father. Mike insisted he had to hide from his father to avoid physical abuse when his father was drunk. Truly Mike Danton was born into a life of dark, insidious secrets. While still in his teens, Mike changed his surname from Jefferson to Danton, a friend’s surname, perhaps as a sign of his longing for the safe, loving family he lacked.

It is not uncommon for a pedophile, or an incestuous father, to prevent their victims from socializing with people outside their family. They are desperate to prevent the victim from revealing their dark sedfcret. In addition, when Frost alienated Mike from his family, he destroyed any refuge Mike might have had from Frost’s sexual perversions. Finally, after approximately 15 years, Mike could tolerate Frost no longer. On April 16, 2004, Mike was 22 years old. Two days after the Blues were eliminated from the first round of the Stanley Cup Playoffs by the San Jose Sharks, Mike was arrested and charged with conspiracy to commit murder. On July 16, 2004, he pled guilty to attempting to hire a hitman, who was a police dispatcher, to murder Frost and was sentenced by U.S. District Judge William Stieh to seven-and-a-half years in a United States federal prison. Mike actually served just over two years. From the perspective of sexual victimization, Mike’s attempt to have his coach murdered confirms:

(1) he was not homosexual
(2) he believed he had no other means of escape from Frost

To this day, Frost denies that he was the target. Mike himself claimed that his original target was his estranged father, Steve Jefferson, but this is doubtful. Perhaps Frost couldn’t face the truth: that Mike hated him enough to want him dead. Incredibly, Frost told the New York Daily News: “This has nothing to do with a gay lover or his relationship with any female. We’re going to get him some help, some treatment. He’s had some issues from his younger years that he needs to deal with.” Frost didn’t state whether or not he himself was  seeking help for pedophilia.

Frost’s perversity wasn’t limited only to Mike. In 2006, Frost was charged with 12 counts of sexual exploitation against three females and four males between the ages of 14 and 16.  DANTONSexual abuse was alleged to have occurred during the time that Frost was Mike’s junior hockey coach, with the Quinte Hawks. Frost was acquitted of all charges on November 28, 2008; the trial included testimony from women who had participated in “threesomes” with Mike and other players.

In November 2005, the CBC program The Fifth Estate aired a documentary, Rogue Agent, about the history between Mike and Frost. The documentary casts light on his controlling relationship with Mike and reveals evidence that Frost encouraged Mike to estrange himself from his parents. Mike also admitted to an alleged incident where Frost and a group of his players sexually abused Mike’s younger brother. The documentary focused on a taped telephone call Mike made to Frost a week after his arrest. In it, Frost instructs Mike to plead guilty and ends the conversation demanding repeatedly that Mike  say “I love you,” which he did. Frost insisted on this odd interplay since it helped him maintain control over the relationship. An autobiography on Mike Danton’s life is currently being written. Since his release from prison, Mike was drafted to St Mary’s University Huskies. “It gave me a second chance on life,” he states. Frost has written his hockey autobiography titled “Frosty: The Good The Bad The Ugly Going Up The Ranks To The NHL”. Not even enough sense to stay out of the media spotlight. He must be the Ugly in that bio.

Most pedophiles do not act on their sexual fantasies toward children. No fake. They fantasize, they download child porn (gross), they usually live in an area close to primary schools, or daycare facilities, but they seldom get sexually involved with children. That’s something to hold onto, I guess. Research suggests that pedophilia may be correlated with several different neurological abnormalities, and often co-exists with other what-is-the-balance-between-technology-and-safety-600x400-450x300personality disorders and psychological pathologies. A variety of topologies have been suggested to categorize pedophiles according to behavior and motivations. Hebephilia is defined as individuals with a primary or exclusive sexual interest in 11-14 year old pubescents. The ICD-10 defines pedophilia as “a sexual preference for children, boys or girls or both, usually of prepubertal or early pubertal age”. Under this system’s criteria, a person 16 years of age or older meets the definition if they have a persistent or predominant sexual preference for prepubescent children at least five years younger than themselves. Non-exclusive offenders are attracted to both children and adults, and can be sexually aroused by both.

Several researchers have reported correlations between certain psychological characteristics and poor social skills (there’s a surprise). The prevalence of pedophilia in the general population is not known,but is estimated to be lower than 5% among adult men. Some pedophiles threaten their victims to stop them from reporting their actions.Others, like those that often victimize children, can develop complex ways of getting access to children, like gaining the trust of a child’s parent, trading children with other pedophiles or, infrequently, get foster children from non-industrialized nations or abduct child victims from strangers. One pedophile offered the information that he is able to identify a child target by frequenting chldren’s arcades. He stated that “the child who has no money to play games and is by himself, without any friends, is the child I approach.” He offers the child money to play some of the ardcade games, then walks the child out of the store. Pedophiles have a sexual preference for boys or girls, but this doesn’t make them homosexuals or heterosexuals. Pedophiles demonstrate elevated psychopathy and propensity for cognitive distortions.

There is no such thing as mutuality in pedophilic relationships, or incest (known as incestuous pedophiles). Lately, movie directors such as Nick Cassavetes are promoting incest as a normal expression of love and mutuality. In  his film, “Yellow,” which stars his ex-wife Heather Wahlquist as a beautiful woman addicted to pain pills. She travels back home to Oklahoma after being 78072-nick-cassavetes-637x0-1expelled from her teaching job in Los Angeles for “having broom closet sex on Parent Night.” (Already we know this movie is going to be a doozy). On her way home, she stops to visit her brother in prison. There is an incest scene that critics describe as “tender and affecting and signals no judgment of the relationship.” Cassavetes summarized in a headline: “Who Gives a Damn? Love Who You Want.” Then he arrived at what became the headline of the article: “I’m not saying this is an absolute, but in a way, if you’re not having kids — Who gives a damn? Love who you want. Isn’t that what we say? Gay marriage — love who you want? If it’s your brother or sister, it’s super weird, but if you look at it, you’re not hurting anybody, except every single person who freaks out because you’re in love with one another.”

On Thursday morning, Early Start co-anchor Ashleigh Banfield felt compelled to weigh in on a story involving New Hope Baptist Church’s Pastor Curtis Knapp, who made headlines for saying that gay individuals should be put to death. Death! In his sermon, Pastor Knapp blamed the Bush administration for its tolerance of gay people. He claims Obama’s tolerance of homosexuality (frankly I think it is acceptance, rather than tolerance), set the stage for the Obama administration to endorse same-sex marriage. Knapp considers himself to be a holy man. Then again, men in Iraq, Saudi, Pakistan, and other Middle Eastern nations consider themselves to be highly religious, and they still practice the execution of stoning people to death, and mutilating wives for disobeying husbands. Where is the holiness in these acts?  But, I digress….

Knapp goes so far as to say “they punish incest and pedophilia”, trying to emphasize that homosexuality is also a perversion and should be punished. The latter are crimes. They have victims who are always devastated for life. Homosexuality has no victims in a (healthy) relationship. True, it wasn’t until the 1970s that homosexuality was removed from the DSM-III as a sexual disorder. However, that was not due to the homosexual attraction itself. That was ignorance on the part of researchers and psychiatrists who wrote the book. Hey, no one is perfect.

On a blog named Random Musings, some weirdo named Michael Pearl (naturally, a minister of some identified religion) was quoted as saying:

But if your husband has sexually molested the children, you should approach him with it. If he is truly repentant and is willing to seek counseling, you may feel comfortable giving him an opportunity to prove himself, as long as you know the children are safe. If there is any thought that they are not safe, or if he is not repentant and willing to seek help, then have him arrested. Stick by him, but testify against him in court. Have him do about 10 to 20 years, and by the time he gets out, you will have raised the kids, and can be waiting for him with open arms of forgiveness and restitution.

Seriously? How do you force a pedophile to “do about 10 to 20 years” in our justice system? How does an incestuous pedophile prove himself, and in what spanking-pastormanner? Here’s what Pearl has to say about homosexuality: When the Bible speaks of fornication it includes all forms of sexual impurity and sin. So, homosexuality is included. The Bible does address homosexuality in Romans chapter one. He (God) speaks of men with men working that which is unseemly. He speaks of women leaving the natural use of the woman and burning in their lust one toward another. He speaks very clearly of homosexuality in Romans chapter one. He said that the people who do such things are worthy of death. 

Pearl’s thought processes are completely dysfunctional, whether he muses about homosexuality or pedophilia. Personally, I have never heard of, or known, a gay man who has sexually molested a boy or girl, groomed a child for an adult-child sexual relationship through the use of child pornography, or posed as a reliable family friend in order to gain access to a pre-pubescent child. Homosexual men are interested in other men. They do not victimize children. They do not hang around playgrounds or schools when they don’t have children of their own who attend these locations. Homosexual men are as repulsed by pedophilia as heterosexual men. There is no difference in the low regard a homosexual man has for a frightened_child_14694662pedophile than there is in a heterosexual man. Homosexual men do not prowl for children. Instead, if they wish to meet strangers or to meet a new partner, for instance, they may attend gay bars, live in an area with an unusually disproportionate number of homosexuals, meet through work or friends, or meet through homosexual dating services. They don’t download child porn. They don’t fantasize about minors, children, toddlers or infants. A homosexual man seeks a relationship with an equal (that is, as far as any relationship has in terms of equality). A healthy homosexual relationship doesn’t involve rape or exploitation. Like heterosexuality, there is mutual affection and regard, and often a permanent relationship (that is, as permanent as any relationship nowadays). There is no power struggle and no victim.

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